Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Money Does Not Define Me

I always wanted to open a bookstore someday. We're going to wait until our family is more financially stable and I don't have babies in the house anymore, so it's a long ways down the road. Someday, though.

A friend of mine cautioned me against opening a bookstore. He said it was a "bad idea." I'm not going to lie, I was pretty irritated. It wasn't because the statement was an attack on my faith in the enduring power of paper books and the stores that sell them. It wasn't because it was an insult to my intelligence. After all, I am smart enough to know bookstores aren't goldmines.

I was mad because he thought bad ideas aren't worth pursuing.

I should take a step back here, since not everyone agrees on what makes an idea "bad." He meant it wouldn't make any money. As a stay-at-home-mom and an aspiring novelist, I don't make any money. Does that make me a "bad idea"?

Everything I've ever done that mattered had no financial value. College. My baby. Volunteering at church. Painting. Dancing. Knitting. Roller derby. My writers' group and our events. All my failed manuscripts that took me many years and many tears to write.

One the other side of the coin, all my working experience was a dismal and utter waste of time. I never had a job that was meaningful. Most of my employment history is me sitting at a desk pretending to be busy. Rotting from the inside out.

My husband keeps encouraging me to use my talents and intellect on money-making endeavors. He's an entrepreneur, so I can't blame him. I keep telling him nothing that makes money interests me. I want to be a lactation consultant, a writer, a bookstore owner... nothing financially smart.

You know what? I'm happy. I'm not just okay with my life, I love my life.

Sure, I hope VOODOO QUEEN will rock the bestsellers lists and make me millions, but if everyone read it an no one paid for it, I'd still be happy. Okay, I'd actually be irate that no one was paying for my book, but I'd keep writing. The point is, you have to live your life the way you are meant to live it, not the way people say you should live it.


  1. Glad you're able to live a life you love! Nice post.

    And I sort of know what you mean. I've been telling a few of my friends some things I want to do with a blog lately, and sometimes they've said that it might not be a good idea, etc. But I find that a little irritating, because I want to do things because I want to do them sometimes, and that's not always based on what the 'best' way to do something is.

  2. Oh Gosh I couldn't agree more!! I think life is about living with no regrets... If God allows us to live a long life and I'm 85 years old sitting on my rocking chair on my front porch sipping on some freshly squeezed lemonade and am reflecting back on my life.... I want to be able to tilt my head back, smile and think, I've done everything that I wanted to do and I don't have any regrets...

  3. I seriously love this post! This is exactly how I feel. I want my kids to do something that fulfills them and leaves them inspired. I hope they make great money too but if money is the thing that drives you to do something as a career, I don't know how happy you'll end up when its retirement time. :) You are a fabulous writer, keep it up


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